Love Spells from Mistress Tiger Pussy: Unknown

Witch Craft Magazine acknowledges that the paths that victims and survivors walk is not one size fits all. There are many ways to grieve and heal. We want to emphasize that the advice offered below is tailored to a specific survivor in a specific scenario. 


Dear Mistress Tiger Pussy,

My question is how to get over an ex. I've never had this problem before; I'm a strong and independent woman who up until this passed relationship thought I didn't need a significant other. We dated for four years. Lived together for 90% of the relationship. Everything was great, and then I was raped. I thought he would be there for me. But everyone in my life seemed to disperse. Including him. It's been a year now and I just want to know how to fall out of love with him.

Unknown


Dear Unknown,

First of all, neither of those traumas indicates that you are no longer that strong and independent woman you’ve always known yourself to be. Guess what? She’s still there, buried underneath that black sludge. And she is you.

And guess what else? You are not alone. I repeat: You are not alone.

MTP herself was once betrayed and violated by the one she loved, and also watched her friends turn away when she walked down the street. It takes great strength to not look away. It sounds like neither your friends nor your boyfriend had that kind of strength. It is unfortunate, but it does not mean they are wicked. Sometimes we are so overcome with grief or shock from someone else’s trauma that we freeze up or hide. This is part of the “fight or flight” response to panic. Consider that they may be experiencing second-hand trauma. Forgive them in your heart. But unless they turn back around and are able to show you genuine support, move on your bold journey forward towards better, stronger souls. They are there, and know it or not, they are awaiting you. They can’t wait to know you.

Along the same lines, part of your healing process to get over your ex requires letting go of your negative feelings towards him, as even those feelings have a strength that binds and damages your spirit. It will prevent you from opening up to someone who will show you the support and love you deserve. Even the strongest among us want and need companionship. It is less a marker of weakness than a sign of your capacity to love and care for someone other than yourself for four years. None of that time is wasted if you learned how to love and live with another.

But before you can extend loving energy outward to others, you must cultivate it within yourself. My dear Unknown, your body and your spirit have both been significantly affected, so let’s concentrate on healing those first. Here is a very powerful two-part spell:

MTP’s Post-Traumatic Self-Love and Releasing Spell

Part I: PTSL

If you are unlucky like me and are bath-less, undress or wrap yourself in a flowy or snuggly robe, fill a large bowl or bucket with water, and gather the following:

  • Two pieces of special paper
  • Pens or markers in the following colors: yellow, blue, indigo, and red
  • 1 pink candle
  • Sea salt
  • Rose quartz and/or crystal quartz
  • Rose water/oil or Lavender oil
  • White sage incense
  • A sponge or bath cloth

Step 1: On a full moon, fill the bath or bucket with warm water. Watch the water pouring into the space and breathe deeply. Draw in the scent of the rushing water and breathe out the knots of anxiety and heavy sadness within you. Close your eyes and let the sound of the water cleanse your mind. When your mind pulls away, gently bring it back. When the bath or bucket is full, turn off the water and sit in the silence for a few moments.

Step 2: When you are ready, take one piece of paper and divide it into four pieces, one for each element: earth, air, water, and fire. On the section for earth, use your yellow marker to write down the parts of your body you love the most, and why. “I love my legs because they are strong and full of graceful curves when I walk.”

For air, use the indigo marker to write down your special knowledge or skills. “I am so boss at solving math problems; I know so much about fairy folklore.”

For water, take the green marker and think about all the abrupt changes and emotional challenges you have undergone, and admire something in how you have adapted to each of them.

For fire, use the red marker and write down what you have achieved in your life: your career, education, or creative successes. Remember that strong, independent woman? You’re looking at her.

Step 3: Add a few drops of oil, a handful of sea salt, and your crystals to your bath. You can read your earth list out loud to yourself if it feels right. Dip the paper in the water so the ink runs and adds color to your bath. If you have a bucket, use the sponge to soak some up and dab it on your solar plexus or squeeze some over your root chakra at the base of your spine.

Step 4: Light the sage and twirl it three times slowly around your head before touching it to the water. Dip your air list in this water, and then touch your sponge or cloth to your third eye. This is the source of your perception, intuition, and mental energies.

Step 5: Light the pink candle and dip your fire list in the water. Dab this water just below your naval, where your creativity, emotions and sex drive cultivate.

Step 6: Drop the water list into the bath or bucket. You can rest here, or dab some on your throat and heart, where your powers of expression and forming relationships come from.

Step 7: For a continued reminder of your inner goddess, stack the bits of paper and drip wax from the candle on the pile. Once they’re dry, keep them in a pouch with the crystals and carry them close to your body.

Step 8: Go outside under the moon and spread your arms wide. Spin slowly three times. Will yourself to smile, to cry, to laugh, or scream. Whatever expression feels appropriate right then.

Part II: Release

You may perform this on the same night after your PTSL spell if you have the energy, or you might choose to wait until the next full or waning moon.

Step 1: On your second piece of paper, using the green marker, write the name of your ex. You can simply write his name, or add a drawing of him or some symbol that represents him to you.

Step 2: Light the rose candle and hold the paper in the flame as you chant:

Lover of old, be gone from my heart,
For in your absence I make a fresh start.
As the river does flow, so shall it be,
My spirit moves forward more healthily.

Make sure to bury the ashes away from your home.

A year is but the blink of an eye when you’ve experienced trauma like this, Unknown. You have already overcome quite a lot simply by continuing to live. As a hot-blooded Scorpio prone to righteous vengeance, I would believe you if you’d said you have imagined all the worst things happening to your attacker and all those who betrayed you. Acknowledge these thoughts, then imagine them passing through you like vapor. What remains is your inner goddess who will protect and guide you along your healing process and reinvention.

With many blessings,

MTP

 

 

Mistress Tiger Pussy is gladly accepting your questions about your relations with others of all genders and levels of intimacy. Email her at witchcraftmag@gmail.com with the subject line 'Love Spell, Your Name' for a personalized love spell. You may also include a pen name such as "Can't Get Off The Floor In Seattle" or "Open Heart Hubby" or whatever seems fitting, otherwise your response will not include your actual name.